Coming into a new relationship is fairly easy. Staying in a long lasting one is the difficult option. If we all just changed our partners every once in a while things might be different. We might end up fighting over all the ones we thought were the cutest, or those we thought had the most promise to elevate us in life. Well that is all for the birds!
The reality of things is we live in a society based on monogamy. That is the word we use when we justify this practice of staying with one person for the rest of our lives. To make it sound better we call it “marriage”. Yeah, marriage! Well this thing is not easy. The planning, the preparation, the struggles of making countless decisions. So many things to do and so little time.
Well, with all that we do, sometimes we forget that there are others around us because of all the pints & quarts (that is what p’s and q’s mean!) we have to tend to.
Who am I? That is the question for the day.
Well I am the one who choose to fall in love. I am the one who choose to make a life long commitment. I am the one who choose to be AWARE. Well, the one I need to be aware of is not always myself like I have for the first part of my life. Now, I need to be aware of my friend, my lover, my partner, my confident. I need to be aware of the one I plan to marry.
The idea of awareness means to be informed, to be alert, to be conscious. Well that is easy when you are being aware of your surroundings, you path or your plan. But being aware of another persons wants, needs and desires is an entirely different endeavour. To be aware of another person you have to watch everything that is going on. You have to know when they are angry. You have to know when they are upset. You have to even know when they don’t want you to be aware.
This task is difficult and most marriages fail quickly because people are not aware of many things. These things are simple, the effort is normally where we all falter. Men, women, cats and dogs all have this issue and for you it will be no different. Learn to be aware of those whom you say you love. Learn to be aware of their well being, their needs, and their pains. Understand what you can do to make things easier and understand what you can do to stay away when necessary as well. Plan to do better from the very beginning so you can exceed at meeting the needs or your partner. Be aware of everything!
Tired feet, stressed back, lonely day, crooked neck!
I am aware, and I want my partner to know that I am watching!