Experiential learning is the process whereby knowledge is created through the transformation of experience (Kolb, 1984).
This wedding process is interesting. It is exactly how Kolb put Experiential Learning, it is a learning experience. I am learning new and exciting things everyday. I get to understand more about myself and about the woman I plan to spend the rest of my life with. I get to learn about those friends and family who either will or say they will support me. And believe me if you want to test friendships and family relationships then a wedding is a great place to start.
As I am sometimes a technical person in my career and even in my personal life everything I ponder on either revolves around a song or some interesting concept that I remember. These things I deal with during my time of meditation can sometimes cause me to seem like a strange individual. Okay, I can admit I am sometimes strange! However, these habits I have also work to keep me grounded, focused and generally out of trouble. So what you really want to know is what I have been pondering about. Well, the subject is communication. Awhile back I brought a book by John C. Maxwell titled “Everyone communicates, FEW CONNECT.” At the time I thought that the concept was great and so forethinking, so of course I brought the book to add to the collection. Well, how about the everyone communicates part? Well, I know a lot of people and they don’t all communicate. So just connect! They connect physically, emotionally, spiritually, and of course sexually.
As a man about to get married you have to ask yourself sometimes, did I really do a good job communicating with the one I am going to marry or did I just connect? And I have to say I think I communicated well. Did I connect? Well, of course I did, I am all about having fun and you have to be willing to roll around in the grass a little to hang out with me!
So, I am committed to communicating throughout this process because I want to be able to accomplish the things in life that I want and those that my wife to be wants. I want to go through the experiences, reflect on the ups and downs, come up with new ideas, test my new ideas and then do it all again. That is my definition of marriage.
Marriage = Experiential Learning = Love = Commitment