Communication from the soul???

As I have begun to take up this new cause, this endeavor to expose the trip I am on: MISSION: to work through the planning of a wedding that I have wanted for some time now, I wonder how things begin. I wonder does anyone read what I put up here. I wouldn’t know because no one leaves any comments yet, so I could be just writing out to the emptiness of the world through the World Wide Web. But, alas I don’t let that discourage me. I enjoy communication! I enjoy writing much more than many whom know me would understand. I truly wish I had more time for it. And as I walk through life involved in the ins and outs of the day I wish I had just a few minutes to clearly say what is on my mind. This rant could be good or bad, happy or sad. But, something has to happen.

So this brings me to the topic that is now before me. Communication is so important in everything we do. It is how we maintain living in life. We must communicate to those we work with, with those we live with and always to those which we love. Now, I must admit, as much as I I love this communication thing I don’t get it right all the time. I screw it up all the time if you really want to know the truth! But, I keep trying. I keep moving towards the mark! So, what now, well I have learned that my way is not always the right way. I have learned that my way will not always lead to the place I thought that it would. I have learned that this method of communication sometimes works better than others because I don’t have to get a response.

At times I wonder if the problem is me or is it the message, or the other person. Often I find out that people involved in communication don’t understand their roles. Some think they are looking for a win-win outcome, while others don’t care if a win-lose outcome is what is about to happen. Now the problem with that is communication is not about winning and loosing. Winning and loosing is the failed attempt at negotiation and we often confuse one with the other. Communication is the art of sending and receiving a message. Communication involves a sender and a receiver. One person can’t switch roles half way in between a statement because that eventually pursues into an argument or the constant habit of cutting one another off.

As young children, our communication styles are learned from what we see in life and from what has been our experiences related to the topic. My experiences weren’t always good and they weren’t always bad, but they were mine and mine alone. What this eventually causes in the inability to understand how another communicates and this is the place where misunderstanding lives. We often say we aren’t understood but more often we don’t want to understand the other person first. We normally want to be heard but we don’t seek first to understand. My method is to listen intently first and then respond. Now, this doesn’t always happen as sometimes I am stubborn. IT happens! So at times like I said before I get the whole thing wrong. I should listen first and then respond. Sometimes I respond first before the whole issue or offense has been heard.

That wrong that I have done will sometimes cause problems with the other involved and yes some people say mean things about me. I must have deserved it right? Okay I know, I know, I still deserve respect but I understand that sometimes things go array!

So we know the what, the why and the how. But,what about the who. What happens when this happens with someone who may not understand as clearly as we think they should. What about when it is a child? What do we do then? Do we try to teach them first, of course. But what if the subject is beyond their mental reach? What is our next recourse? What must we say next? The other time is when we are dealing with someone who is a hot head and doesn’t care to, or even want to listen to the situation at hand.

This is when I have to put these issues out in the open, out to the world to be danced around by the universe. What the heck happens next?